Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
I receive 1000s of emails from my fans seeking interracial dating advice for Asian men as well as the #1 question that gets asked is, “How do I know if she (normally a white girl, however, not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
As the Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for the first and before despite my misgivings.
I was recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the key reason why it’s so controversial extensively in the bottom) on one of my many flights training men within the art of attraction after i sat next to a really pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer sort of girl.
In our conversation, she made lots of the verbal indicators of great interest that I’ve heard in the past and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from the woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes of you and I).
This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and one in which I’ll go more into detail within my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
So here is a list of a number of the things these girls will consciously do in order to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (and while I use the term white female, the simple truth is other women from Black to Latin American, will even use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a woman is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
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Maybe you’ve seen this kind - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or wear an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to obtain pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because every woman wants to be cultured. You, being a cosmopolitan man around the globe, are going to teach her a phrase in your language. Here’s an example for you Chinese speakers.
First, act serious and say something like, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this valuable in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I believe that?”
And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can manage) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I enjoy your laugh.’”
And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded inside a learning experience.
Girls who have had the pleasure of the situation tell me it’s unique and something they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
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Her companion is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived next door to a Vietanemse family. Even when they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they have some sort of Asian acceptance to create her seem more receptive. They’ll make use of the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is how one girl’s delivery room doctor was obviously a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die within the arms of an Asian man also.” The point is, they are wanting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was unveiled in the idea of dating Asian men by way of a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Martial Arts: I’ve never benefitted using this personally but one of my clients is a former North American fighting techinques champ and he’s currently a fairly famous action director and actor. He’s written in my experience on several occasions concerning the sexy crazy groupies such as the following him and the folks his circuit - a plentiful selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies follow the martial arts circuit, the martial Arts circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You've got a winner!
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4. She Loves Asian Food: Be it sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she actually is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If the comes up, use visual imagery to paint a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of a steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your personal Korean BBQ, and also the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating as well as arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food like this is sensual…just like sex. The way to a man’s heart is via his stomach, right? It relates to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows Much more about Your Mother Country Than You are doing: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her desires to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - don't take this as generalizing, she’s just attempting to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint a picture about going on a vacation together. Focus on romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up getting sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around in the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s approximately her. If she’s referring to how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s trying to relate to you. The second kind of woman desires to impress you together with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s seeking you to a point in which you say something towards the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you recognize!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and films - this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and much more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. As well as Chinese for that matter. I’m not saying it won’t happen, however can’t ever think of a time I used to be successful with this type of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply just will not have anything just one BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or pores and skin, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm as much as hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation is going well, take her hand to point out the contrasting tones. Intangible such things as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren't uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably put it on again). Just as we were little boys, we all do melt under the praise of the beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments for example education or that familiarity with a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.
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9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically make a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You are able to bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and got married and we had a litter of the very beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just as we men have sexual fantasies, for women who live “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it of their minds to stay emotionally detached, but remember that, by the end of this or any conversation you've with a female interested in you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping together with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Believe me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of that time period. So a white girl that way will say that she's got dated an Asian man before. She'll make this point as well as further - she's going to try to guess your ethnicity to exhibit that she’s “learned in the means of Asian men” and can prove that “not all of you look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to make her seem more appealing and receptive if you ask me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your responsibility to close because as signals go, it doesn’t have any bigger than this one.
With, saying, or doing one among the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically make a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a number of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you merely might find yourself conversing with one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Recall the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the woman better than you found her!
SO WHY WAIT UNTIL NOW TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously i was always reluctant to answer this question. It seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give that says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
Why haven’t I answered it until recently? Unfortunately, the act of asking the question means your LESS LIKELY TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. You see, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve for ages been hesitant to answer because, on a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the answer to that question. In my opinion that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known as “learned helplessness.”
Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How can one tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and so me)?” is important, are training themselves to only make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, before the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, in the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or perhaps your money back proposition.
As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the very last thing dating is, is risk-free.
This means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man prepared to take risks (who would then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead becomes the Asian beta male who is only confident if it's instead the woman who takes the initial risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role being dominant, forward, plus a leader.
I hope, however, I'm not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to look, and ONLY look, of these specific female signals of attraction first prior to making a move… Instead of creating a move first and then making her interested in you which she then supplies you with signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh the right path into her heart (and then her pants)!
As you have seen, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not a great looking or handsome guy. All women I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You shouldn't expect them because I certainly don’t and my success most abundant in beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured from the media around the world.
Instead, start using these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming drawn to you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You should take these 10 Signals She’s Drawn to Asian Men as signs so that you can STAY when you’re already inside a conversation with her as opposed to viewing them as indicators that you should initially approach her.
In the end, what I’ve discovered with women that specifically that they like Asian men are in a choice of it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll want to be there but be mindful because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not a girl YOU chose, which is a gross difference.
And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m going to address the 13 Types of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only drawn to your “Asianness”, but not for your reasons that you might think.
When you haven’t had the chance to become familiar with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - in the end, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the sport early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you have yet to meet.